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Talking to your children about sex

This week’s topic strikes fear into the hearts of many parents. Even the most talkative of parents may stumble on words. But talking to your children about sex is an important part of parenting. Children and adolescents need your guidance to help them make healthy and appropriate decisions about their sexual behavior. The conversation should …

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Blow your own socks off

There is a belief that women don’t like oral sex, changing this myth will have you practising oral sex for your own pleasure while he gets what he wants too. Do it because you want to and watch your enjoyment change. These are not rules but guidelines. There are no rules. Use your body and …

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Non-Monogamous Relationships

Having lived in a non monogamous community for two months in San Francisco, I got a glimpse of what it was like to have multiple partners from those I lived with. Types of relationships constituting non monogamy include consensual polygamy, polyamary and polyandry.Polygamy: the custom or practice of having more than one wife at a …

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Anywhere but the bedroom

Anywhere but the bedroom I would never bash sex in the bedroom. It works. When the kids are around it is sometimes the only place with some privacy. And it’s comfortable. And the one room in the house where sex is most likely to happen. But there’s nothing wrong with trying out a few of …

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Emotional Abuse

Physical abuse is easier to identify than emotional abuse. Both are equally damaging. And even with evidence it’s not everyone who will have the courage to walk away. Love is not supposed to hurt and being strong does not mean staying in  relationships that devalue you. The following are some signs that you are in an …

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Women Who Have Sex With Women

I recently attended a workshop for women who have sex with women. The feedback was that most public clinics, and even some private health practitioners were of the belief that the women have low sexual concerns risk. Some health practitioners went as far as deeming pap smears unnecessary for these women. Not only is this …

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Conversation to have before sex

You don’t have to tell your partner how many sexual partners you’ve had. It’s non of their business as far as I see it. And it’s not everyone who keeps track. But you should have a discussion on when last you were tested for HIV and other sexually transmitted infections and your results. If your …

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Sex Toys

Whether using them on your own or with a partner, sex toys can be an exciting way to enhance your sex life. People of all types use sex toys. There are many misconceptions that sex toys are only used by people who are abstinent, do not currently have sexual partners, or by gay men and …

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Does Size Matter?

Size shouldn’t and often doesnt matter. There is no connection  between size and sexual satisfaction. In many studies, other factors such as being physically attracted to your partner and being in a healthy, happy relationship rate higher in terms of importance than size. The size of the penis has been a source of anxiety for many …

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Faking It

Have you ever felt under pressure to fake an orgasm, an Oscar award winning performance complete with biting of the bottom lip? Do you wonder if your partner has done the same? It’s very common. Almost everyone is guilty of having done it at least once. And because we equate male ejaculation with orgasm, with …

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